I Think I'm Ready to Leave...

What do I do next?

  1. First, if you are in immediate danger, call 911.
  2. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) for your nearest shelter or advocate.
  3. If you are injured, go see a doctor and keep your own evidence, such as broken things, torn clothing, pictures of injuries, etc.. Keep them in a safe place away from home.
  4. Plan for a safe time to leave. Have phone numbers with you of people you may need to call. If possible, let someone know that you are leaving, so that they can check on you later.
  5. Let a neighbor know ahead of time that if they see or hear a disturbance, they should call the police. Also let your children know ahead of time that they are not to try to protect you if you are confronted with danger. And they need to know when and where to go to be safe.
  6. Arrange ahead of time for pet care.
  7. Have some money put away at your support group or with a friend, so you will have access to it when you need it.
  8. Have a SAFETY PLAN filled out, and your important papers, extra keys, prescription medications, keepsakes and children's toys available outside your home.
  9. Listen to your own instincts. If a dangerous confrontation is in the works, do what is needed to keep things calm. Try not to block yourself into a small space like a closet or bathroom. Try to position yourself near an exit.
  10. Be discerning and careful. You know your abuser better than anyone, so don't let any well-meaning person convince you to do anything that you feel may put you in greater danger.