Are You An Abuser?
Are you hurting the one you love? You are if you:
- threaten her
- swear at her
- slap, push, kick or hit her
- are verbally abusive to her
- pressure her to do something you know she does not want to do
- blame her for your problems
- disrespect her, her family and friends
- isolate her from her family and friends
- are extremely possessive or jealous
- ignore her "no"
- do not value her opinion
- make her afraid to express her opinion or wishes
- make her feel uncomfortable
- belittle or make fun of her, her clothing or her make-up
- continually break promises
- use the bible as a weapon against her
Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud, it is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs." 1Corinthians 13:4-5 NLT
"Husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them." Colossians 3:19 NIV
If you are being abusive, SEEK HELP
Are you prepared to acknowledge that you need to change? If so, talk about this to a close friend, pastor, doctor or counselor.
If you are the friend of an abuser you can:
- Listen
- Do not blame
- Do not ignore the signs of abuse
- Be supportive
- Give encouragement
- Be a shoulder to lean on
- Offer to go with him to get help
- Invite him to go places with you
- Set a good example
- Learn about domestic violence
- Ask for help to deal with this